Tag Archives: queer

You Are Not Here Because You Belong Here

You belong here┬ábecause you are here. Recently, a tech company had a female employee depicted in one of the advertisements for their company. There was sexist backlash, folks suggesting that the woman in the ad must have been an actress … Continue reading

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(Not) Fitting In

The other day, I was in lab chatting with a couple of my coworkers, when I thought I heard them mispronoun me. That is, I thought I heard one of them – and then the other – accidentally refer to … Continue reading

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A Vignette: Misgendering in Exchange for Queer Visibility

Scene: Me, buying lunch. As I struggle to pull my card out of my wallet (it’s kind of jammed in there), I am aware of the cashier watching my face in a subtle, yet noticeable way. I glance up and … Continue reading

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Hey Feminism, Trans* People Exist!

I want my freedom to be boundless and expansive, not carved into a landscape of other oppressions. Last week when I watched a video of Emma Watson, Harry Potter star and also now the United Nations Women Goodwill Ambassador, addressing … Continue reading

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Visibility

Coming out of having lived life as a queer woman, one of the realities of physical transition coupled with cis-normativity is an inevitable disconnection from some of the queer spaces I used to feel affirmed and accepted in. While I … Continue reading

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I Will Never Fit Into the Gender Binary

I went to a department store today to buy some button down shirts. When I looked around for fitting rooms, I saw some across the store by the women’s section. After a moment of looking around further and not seeing … Continue reading

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Perception Anxiety

I often worry that others’ perception of my gender is like that of a computer monitor that has been left on the same screen for too long without a screen saver. When this happens, the screen that has been left … Continue reading

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Hey Women’s Colleges! Trans* People Exist!

I am a male alum of Wellesley College, a women’s college. When I applied to and enrolled at Wellesley, I did not know I was male. I did not know the entire time I was enrolled, and even for a … Continue reading

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Words, Words, Words and their Meanings

Transgender The other day I was considering ordering a beer at a restaurant. Others at my table ordered before me, and I realized that the waitress was carding everyone, which hasn’t been happening as frequently in my life as I’ve … Continue reading

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On Good People Being Called Out

I recently had the opportunity to call someone out for using a phrase that made me uncomfortable as a transgender person. For context, this was someone I didn’t know on a liberal-minded, well-intentioned Facebook group. Even given this environment, I … Continue reading

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