Tag Archives: misgendering

International Women’s Day

Posted on March 8, 2016 by doesnthavetobethisway

[Below is something I posted on social media today. I’m sharing it here as is, unpolished (per my usual self-imposed blog standards), so more folks can easily find it and link to it if they want. Hopefully I will find … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged celebration, international women's day, misgendering, non-binary, oppression, trans women, trans*, women, women's issues | Leave a comment

Mutable

Posted on August 15, 2015 by doesnthavetobethisway

“Sometimes I feel like ‘male’ is an island I’m clinging to after being lost at sea.” This is hard for me to write about. It has been a year since I started working in a place where everyone (who didn’t … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged body, cis, cis male, cis passing, cisgender, cisnormativity, doubt, gender, healing, male, man, misgendering, non-binary, pain, passing, perception, pronouns, safety, testosterone, trans*, transgender, transition, uncertainty, wholeness | 4 Comments

A Vignette: Misgendering in Exchange for Queer Visibility

Posted on October 10, 2014 by doesnthavetobethisway

Scene: Me, buying lunch. As I struggle to pull my card out of my wallet (it’s kind of jammed in there), I am aware of the cashier watching my face in a subtle, yet noticeable way. I glance up and … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged cisnormativity, gender, heteronormativity, misgendering, perception, pronouns, queer, queer visibility, trans*, transgender, visbility | 1 Comment

Hey Feminism, Trans* People Exist!

Posted on September 30, 2014 by doesnthavetobethisway

I want my freedom to be boundless and expansive, not carved into a landscape of other oppressions. Last week when I watched a video of Emma Watson, Harry Potter star and also now the United Nations Women Goodwill Ambassador, addressing … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged anti-oppression, cisgender, Emma Watson, equality, feminism, gender, gender identity, intersectionality, lgbt, LGBTQ, misgendering, oppression, perception, privilege, queer, trans*, transgender, transmen, women | 2 Comments

Nametags, Pronouns, and Lifting the Burden

Posted on July 19, 2014 by doesnthavetobethisway

Wintertime, about a week before I was to begin physical transition, I was at a Quaker retreat. At this point in time, folks who didn’t know me consistently and incorrectly presumed I was a cisgender woman, much to my dismay. This is … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged cis-normativity, gender, gender identity, identity, lifting the burden, misgendering, nametags, perception, pronouns, solidarity, trans*, transgender | 1 Comment

Visibility

Posted on June 25, 2014 by doesnthavetobethisway

Coming out of having lived life as a queer woman, one of the realities of physical transition coupled with cis-normativity is an inevitable disconnection from some of the queer spaces I used to feel affirmed and accepted in. While I … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged gender identity, identity, misgendering, queer, solidarity, trans*, trans* visbility, transgender, transition, transmen, visibility | 3 Comments

Perception Anxiety

Posted on May 15, 2014 by doesnthavetobethisway

I often worry that others’ perception of my gender is like that of a computer monitor that has been left on the same screen for too long without a screen saver. When this happens, the screen that has been left … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged being out, gender norms, gender policing, gender roles, misgendering, out, perception, perceptions, pronouns, queer, trans*, transgender | 2 Comments

Words, Words, Words and their Meanings

Posted on April 19, 2014 by doesnthavetobethisway

Transgender The other day I was considering ordering a beer at a restaurant. Others at my table ordered before me, and I realized that the waitress was carding everyone, which hasn’t been happening as frequently in my life as I’ve … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged blending, blending privilege, cisgender, gender, misgendering, passing, privilege, queer, stealth, trans*, transgender | 2 Comments

On Being ‘Other’

Posted on April 6, 2014 by doesnthavetobethisway

I grew up in quite liberal, accepting environments. At one of the schools I went to for many years, the gay kids were the cool kids, not the outcasts. I later went to a women’s college, where there was a … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged assumptions, gay, gender, identity, LGBTQ, misgendering, pronouns, queer, respect, support, trans*, trans* ally, transgender | Leave a comment

Optical Gender Illusions: How to Truly See Your Trans* Friend’s Gender

Posted on March 30, 2014 by doesnthavetobethisway

I have entered an ambiguous time in my transition. Like the color of the tiles in the checker shadow illusion, how my gender is perceived is often entirely context dependent. In the checker shadow illusion, shown above, the tiles labeled … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged gender, illusion, misgendering, optical illusions, perception, pronouns, tips, trans*, transgender, transition | 3 Comments