Author Archives: doesnthavetobethisway

New Blog!

Posted on January 22, 2017

Hello dear readers! After close to a year long hiatus from writing, I am back! Except I have decided to start fresh with a new blog, Patience and Pressure. I have learned a lot and come a long way while … Continue reading →

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International Women’s Day

Posted on March 8, 2016

[Below is something I posted on social media today. I’m sharing it here as is, unpolished (per my usual self-imposed blog standards), so more folks can easily find it and link to it if they want. Hopefully I will find … Continue reading →

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TSA ‘Private Screening’ As A Trans Man, Part II

Posted on December 27, 2015

In the bathroom, I prepare for my next trip through TSA security. I have not yet left for the airport, where I will again stop in the bathroom one last time before getting in the security line. I change one … Continue reading →

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TSA ‘Private Screening’ As A Trans Man, Part I

Posted on December 6, 2015

I recently experienced what seems to be a right of passage for trans people who have to go through airport security: the private screening. I was on my way to catch a flight home after traveling for Thanksgiving, and wrote the … Continue reading →

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Bravery

Posted on November 23, 2015

“You’re so brave!” This is a refrain that many trans people hear with some frequency. I don’t know how to respond when people tell me this. Thanks? I am brave the way someone might run through a field of thorny … Continue reading →

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Just do it already: The Invisible Barriers of Anxiety

Posted on October 31, 2015

On any given day, there are a number of things that I feel lots of anxiety about. I know that if I just do them, I will feel better, and yet doing them is not so straightforward for me. These things … Continue reading →

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My Body Is ‘Inappropriate’: Practicing Self Love

Posted on October 10, 2015

[Content note: Discussion of body image and weight in the context of oppression and internalized feelings.] I want to take a minute to talk about self-esteem, particularly as a queer and trans person. Every day, at least once a day, … Continue reading →

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