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New Blog!
Hello dear readers! After close to a year long hiatus from writing, I am back! Except I have decided to start fresh with a new blog, Patience and Pressure. I have learned a lot and come a long way while … Continue reading
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International Women’s Day
[Below is something I posted on social media today. I’m sharing it here as is, unpolished (per my usual self-imposed blog standards), so more folks can easily find it and link to it if they want. Hopefully I will find … Continue reading
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Tagged celebration, international women's day, misgendering, non-binary, oppression, trans women, trans*, women, women's issues
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TSA ‘Private Screening’ As A Trans Man, Part II
In the bathroom, I prepare for my next trip through TSA security. I have not yet left for the airport, where I will again stop in the bathroom one last time before getting in the security line. I change one … Continue reading
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Tagged airport security, binders, gender non-conforming, pat downs, trans man, trans*, traveling while trans, TSA, wrinkles
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TSA ‘Private Screening’ As A Trans Man, Part I
I recently experienced what seems to be a right of passage for trans people who have to go through airport security: the private screening. I was on my way to catch a flight home after traveling for Thanksgiving, and wrote the … Continue reading
Bravery
“You’re so brave!” This is a refrain that many trans people hear with some frequency. I don’t know how to respond when people tell me this. Thanks? I am brave the way someone might run through a field of thorny … Continue reading
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Tagged bravery, choice, coming out, courage, fear, trans reproduction, trans*, transphobia
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My Body Is ‘Inappropriate’: Practicing Self Love
[Content note: Discussion of body image and weight in the context of oppression and internalized feelings.] I want to take a minute to talk about self-esteem, particularly as a queer and trans person. Every day, at least once a day, … Continue reading
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Tagged anti-fat bias, anxiety, body image, body size, fat, fat acceptance, health, oppression, self care, self love, size acceptance, trans man, trans*, transgender, weight loss
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Mutable
“Sometimes I feel like ‘male’ is an island I’m clinging to after being lost at sea.” This is hard for me to write about. It has been a year since I started working in a place where everyone (who didn’t … Continue reading
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Tagged body, cis, cis male, cis passing, cisgender, cisnormativity, doubt, gender, healing, male, man, misgendering, non-binary, pain, passing, perception, pronouns, safety, testosterone, trans*, transgender, transition, uncertainty, wholeness
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You Are Not Here Because You Belong Here
You belong here because you are here. Recently, a tech company had a female employee depicted in one of the advertisements for their company. There was sexist backlash, folks suggesting that the woman in the ad must have been an actress … Continue reading
Breathing In Anger
I have been feeling really angry this week. I have been feeling really angry, and part of me is relieved. I have been holding my breath and trying to survive an extraordinary sea of change in my life. I have … Continue reading
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Tagged advocate, anger, anti-oppression, breathing, Caitlyn Jenner, capitalism, cis, education, privilege, survival, trans woman, trans*, transgender, transmasculine
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It Doesn't Have to Be This Way 